Learn to have patience with yourself.

Laurie OswaltTime doesn’t necessarily heal all wounds, but grief definitely does take time.

 Brenda’s husband died the 5th of May. Within a week, her husband’s closet was completely cleaned out, and his clothes were sent to a homeless shelter—they may as well go to good use, right? Within a month, her kids had helped Brenda get her house up for sale. By the time six months rolled around, Brenda had moved out of her house and into a new town. So now, Brenda is grieving the loss of her husband, her memories, her home, her friends, and her town.

Experts suggest that you try to give yourself a full year (or thereabouts) before beginning to wrestle with even further life-changing issues like moving out, moving away, moving “on.”  Instead, make plans for your future (both short-term and long-term) in different ways:

  • schedule outings with others
  • make personal goals for the next six months
  • evaluate what is great about your life (you may have to come back to this last thing—the evaluation—time and time again before you are able to discover that there are good things in your life. That’s okay)

Take the time now to grieve. Smell the smells that remind you of your loved one. Cry when you need to. And know this: you will grieve. You can hold it in and try to move on, but the grief will simply go with you until you deal with it, chew on it, work through it, recover from it.


Breast Cancer Survivors

Calling all breast cancer survivors!  You are invited to celebrate Breast Cancer Awareness Month “Surviving in Style” event at North Star Lodge.  Medical Oncology Director, Vicky Jones, MD will present a short program on “The Latest in Breast Cancer Prevention, Detection and Research” followed by our very first knitted breast prosthetic fitting party (compliments of the North Star Knitters) and fashion show featuring Coldwater Creek styles.  There will be prize drawings, a dessert bar, and pink beverages of all kinds.

When: October 12, 6-8 pm.  Attendance is limited, please RSVP at 509-574-3441

Hospice Groundbreaking

More than 225 friends, donors, and neighbors  joined together at the recent Cottage in the Meadow site to celebrate the commencement of construction.  Everyone enjoyed themselves as they were welcomed by dignitaries and given an update on Cottage by Dr. Tim Melhorn, chair of the Hospice Steering Committee.  The ceremony concluded as chaplain Laurie Oswalt encouraged attendees to make a wish and place a special rock in a decorative garden fountain that will grace the grounds upon completion.  As the ceremony ended the traditional first shovel of dirt was turned over by Bill Dolsen, chair of Memorial Hospital Trustees and Bill Wheeler, chair of The Memorial Foundation Board.  Heavy construction equipment was then “fired up” and the real digging began. Follow the progress of construction at www.yakimahospice.org.

Several named gift opportunities still exist at Cottage in the Meadow.  Those wishing to have part in the Cottage project are urged to contact Anne Caffery or Mark Young at The Memorial Foundation at 509-576-5794 or www.memfound.org.

Mammography Center Donation

Yakima Valley Quilters donate $10,000 for mammograms

Yakima Herald-Republic

YAKIMA, Wash. — The Yakima Valley Quilters Guild is presenting ‘Ohana Mammography Center with a $10,000 check today in support of its scholarship fund.

The scholarship fund is used to help offset the cost of mammography imaging exams for patients unable to afford the full cost. The center is part of Yakima Valley Memorial Hospital.

The guild raised money by selling raffle tickets for handcrafted quilts. Since 2003, the guild has given ‘Ohana more than $36,500.

The check presentation is scheduled for 3 p.m. at the center, 1515 W. Yakima Ave. in Yakima, and coincides with ‘Ohana’s five-year anniversary celebration. Throughout the day, women will be treated to special classes — such as gentle yoga and Pilates — and pampering that includes pink hair extensions and nails, aromatherapy and anniversary cake and beverages.