Take a play from the playbook of other grievers: Working through the loss of your loved one is difficult. It just is. One thing you want to really watch is doing things that you’re going to have to work to recover from as well as having to recover from your grief.
Here’s what I mean:
In the moment, a sleeping pill may be the thing to calm you down enough so you can hit the pillow. In the moment, just one more glass of wine may be what it takes to relax you and keep your head from spinning. But a few moments from now, you may look back and wonder why you now can’t go to sleep unless you’re drugged up, or you can’t seem to function unless you have a bottle nearby (even if it’s hidden).
Medicating yourself during this time can be dangerous. You will grieve. You can grieve now, or you can suppress your emotions for a time and grieve later. But medications, including alcohol, will only delay the process. The bigger problem with using substances to numb the pain is that you may find yourself needing to grieve and to wean off the very things you started taking in order to help. Addictions often arise in the midst of pain and grief.
And you’ve got enough on your plate.